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Content › Keeping a Clean Slate - Marc Segar 1974-1997: A Survival Guide for People with Asperger Syndrome
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- Whenever we go into a completely new environment and no-one
knows us yet, we start off with an undamaged reputation, that is a clean slate.
- It is largely by breaking the unwritten rules of society
that people dirty their slates.
- If you can keep using what you have read in this book
then it should be enough to allow you to keep a fairly clean slate, but don't
expect to keep it cleaner than everyone else's slates.
- Everyone tries to keep a mental note of everyone else's
slate in their little group. This includes things people have said, things
they have done, things they can and cannot do and the general way in which
they come across.
- It is mostly on the basis of your slate that people will
be able to make fun of you.
- If your slate is already dirty, don't despair, it is often
a reversible process and if you are patient, by ceasing to do anything wrong,
it should slowly improve.
- Try not to tell someone too much about yourself or any
of your weaknesses unless you have got to know them quite well because knowledge
is power. This does not mean you have to bottle things up (see chapter on
worrying).
- If you wish, then by keeping your ears open you can learn
about what's on other peoples slates.
- Some people like to stand out. People who stand out but
who cannot keep to the unwritten rules whilst doing so can very easily make
themselves into a target for other peoples teasing or neglect.
- Making a spectacle of ones self is also an easy way to
become a target but if you have Asperger Syndrome then it is often very difficult
to know exactly what this means.
- Making a spectacle of yourself is normally about doing
things in public which make you look different to everyone else (being
the odd one out).
- People who are able to stand out and be popular at the
same time are said to have charisma. This is a gift which some people
have but not others and it can often involve having a very accurate understanding
of what's going on around you. It is popular belief that you can only have
charisma if you were born that way but in the case of Asperger Syndrome, this
statement is not applicable.
- It is usually better to stand out from the inside than
on the outside.
Published on: 2005-09-24 17:17:15 (1071 reads)
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