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Content › Coming Clean - Marc Segar 1974-1997: A Survival Guide for People with Asperger Syndrome
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- Amongst certain groups of people, you might decide that
you want to come clean and tell them that you are autistic. This is entirely
your own choice.
- You might, however, wish to tell just one person in the
group (preferably the one who is friendliest towards you) in which case if
you want it kept a secret, it might be a good idea to say so, otherwise the
message might spread behind your back and it can be extremely difficult to
tell whether or not people know.
- If you are coming clean for the first time in your life,
it might be a very difficult move but as people find out, they might become
a little less hostile and a little more accepting.
- On the other hand, you might have come clean to so many
different people that you are sick and tired of saying it.
- You might find coming clean a more effective tactic as
you get older. People who are caring and mature might bring many things to
your attention in order to be constructive. However, it is better if they
do this while there are just the two of you in the room.
- Coming clean might make some people very interested in
you and may give you a lot to talk about.
- If the message that you are autistic gets to someone who
has been giving you a particularly hard time, it may make them feel guilty
and do some good, but not always.
- The worst reaction you can get is when people become more
hostile towards you because of having found out. This will nearly always be
from people who didn't like you much to start with or who have little or no
knowledge of autism.
- To deal with people who don't believe you when you say
you are autistic can be difficult but to have a detailed understanding of
the problem can be very helpful in shattering the myths (e.g. when people
say you can't possibly be autistic because you make too much eye contact).
- Amongst children or young teenagers, it might be a better
idea if you do not come clean, at least until you know them very well.
Published on: 2005-09-24 17:18:22 (1033 reads)
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